View Full Version : What can I do with my son!!!!!!!!!!

20-08-2008, 08:33 AM
Please help it's driving me mad.:mad:
I have a son who will be 6 in January,he is dry during day,dry during the night,but he must wear a nappy for a poo.
Well yesterday I ran out of nappies and decided enough was enough and told him he must use the toilet which to praise him he didn't have a temper tantrum like he normally would,and yesterday he tried 3 times but no luck.
We tried this morning because he said his belly hurt but still no luck,he asked me for a nappy this morning but I didn't give in but I feel awful and want to give in.
My lovely husband says don't give in he will have to go sometime but he's not here during the day when he asks me for a nappy.:panic:
Is my husband right shall I just keep saying no nappy and hope he will go?
The doctor reckons boys are lazy and not to worry as he will just ask not to have nappy one day,but my son is due to start in year 1 in September and it just doesn't seem right for him to still be wearing a nappy.
So what shall I do continue what I am doing or listen to doctor?
My son has been holding it in until he gets home from school up until now.,which can't be good for him.
Sorry for long thread but I need reassurance I am doing the right thing!:)

Chatterbox Childcare
20-08-2008, 08:35 AM
I think there is a problem here.

I would put the nappy back on and get advise from my health visitor.

Hope all goes well.


sue m
20-08-2008, 08:38 AM
I agree with Debbie, I have 2 friends with children with a very similar problem and it's major for them and unfortunately it won't work if you insist on them going on the loo. Sorry. Keep us informed? Good luck.

20-08-2008, 08:39 AM
Hi Alyson,

I don't have any advice but just wanted to add that my two sons, aged 4 and nearly 6 are still wet at night and wear nappies. I too have been like you and refused the nappies and after 3/4 days of constantly washing bedding I give in. I have spoken with my GP and he gave me the number of the incontinence clinic which I have stuck on my noticeboard and I keep telling the boys that I will ring them in an attempt to help them stop wetting at night....had not effect. The GP did also suggest rewarding them, and giving lots of praise, which we have already done.

Like you have said, boys are lazy and I think that one day something will just click and they will no longer need nappies. I hope this will be the same for your son too.

20-08-2008, 08:40 AM
I would go back and see the doctor again or the school nurse and try to get a referal to see a specialist . He may have built it up in his mind that he can not go on atoilet or there may be a physical reason that makes it uncomfortable for him to use the toilet .Either way they should be able to sort it out with the right help.I would not accept from the doctor that he will just grow out of it. He may well do but i would want to check that their wasnt a under lying problem

sue m
20-08-2008, 10:08 AM
I agree with Jackie.

20-08-2008, 11:37 AM
I would recommend that you get a referral to the constipation and soiling clinic, normally run by the school nurses team.

20-08-2008, 11:45 AM
why not try sitting him on toilet with nappy on then gradually sit him on it with nappy undone till he sees he can do it without nappy on !!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck :littleangel:

20-08-2008, 12:25 PM
I had this problem with my son when he was training and it was suggested to lay a nappy across potty and gradually push nappy into potty so the sensation of being on a toilet was established.

Not sure I have explained this very well but I would defo get advice from health visitor or gp or referral. This is not right.


20-08-2008, 01:07 PM
Oh dear this doesnt seem right, i just wanted to wish you good luck though x:thumbsup:

20-08-2008, 01:11 PM
In my humble opinion: you should pop a nappy back on your son so he can do his poop before he gets badly constipated.

There's quite an interesting article on withholding bowel movements here:

20-08-2008, 02:44 PM
I have exactly the same situation this very second with my son too. He is only just turned 2 granted, but has been dry for about 3 months now but still prefers to poo in a nappy. i give in and let him as i dont like to see him in pain, but the problem i have is that if i am out of the house he eill go on potty for DH no problem!!
i know your all gonna say its something i'm doing but i dont know what!!!!!!!!

i really feel for you in this situation as your son is 6 and i hope you get it resolved quickly.

20-08-2008, 03:17 PM
Well I gave in and bought some nappies and lo and behold he's been twice no problem,so now I think it is pshycological(is that how you spell it probably not).
I have tried cutting a hole in the nappy before hand and popping him on the loo but no luck,I even got a leaflet with a story on it about poo going bak to his friends and they live in the toilet(I know sad but story was good)
So I'll try and make an appointment with the doctors for next week.
Thanks for all your help.:)

20-08-2008, 03:22 PM
Alyson, i tried PM you but it wouldnt let me

20-08-2008, 03:33 PM
Ok Amanda I don't know why it won't let you,I'll have a look at my profile list and see if it's anything I have done.:(