Julia
14-08-2008, 01:01 PM
Hi
Im experianced with little boys (always is the boys) who hate to be away from mum. Ive had plenty of experiance bringing them round and getting them to eventually settle, Ive only had one boy who wouldnt and that was because mum was so soft with him, if he made enough fuss she'd phone in sick and stay with him :eek: :angry:
The little boy I have now, again mum is really soft with him, she constantly says things (whilst he's listening) about not wanting to have to go to work and leave him. Ive had him for 5 weeks and he still crys all day, well I say cry he complains he doesnt actually cry!:rolleyes: . I took him to a fun house on Tuesday and all the other kids I had with me (4) ran off and had a blast, he just stood about 10 feet away from me crying, i tried to get him involved but would only go into the fun house with me!
When I expressed my concerns with dad, he said that this little um had been in nursery but mum took him out because he kept on crying on drop off and pick up and she felt he wasnt settling. Also he told me that mums older child was the same at his age and didnt stop crying about going to school until she was 9 years old! He told me that the mum was very over protective of her son and if he has even the smallest knock or fall she goes off the deep end to the extent that she will convince herself that he needs medical attention!
How the hell is this poor little chap going to cope with school in April next year?? Hes going to freek out, he cant cope with being in a room with 4 other children let alone 20.
I dont want to give up on him, he needs this enviroment, but how am I going to combat his mums smothering? I can be diplomatic, but I'll probably have to be quite harsh with her and tell her to ease off and let the poor kid be a kid and not a clingy mummy's boy, crist he wouldnt even join in the painting and glittering today, he just stood there asking for his mum, I even told him to make the crown for his mum and that made him worst!:(
I dont know what to do? I want to be able to help and get him out of this situation, so at least he's a little prepared for school, but I dont know if my sanity can cope?
what do you think?
Im experianced with little boys (always is the boys) who hate to be away from mum. Ive had plenty of experiance bringing them round and getting them to eventually settle, Ive only had one boy who wouldnt and that was because mum was so soft with him, if he made enough fuss she'd phone in sick and stay with him :eek: :angry:
The little boy I have now, again mum is really soft with him, she constantly says things (whilst he's listening) about not wanting to have to go to work and leave him. Ive had him for 5 weeks and he still crys all day, well I say cry he complains he doesnt actually cry!:rolleyes: . I took him to a fun house on Tuesday and all the other kids I had with me (4) ran off and had a blast, he just stood about 10 feet away from me crying, i tried to get him involved but would only go into the fun house with me!
When I expressed my concerns with dad, he said that this little um had been in nursery but mum took him out because he kept on crying on drop off and pick up and she felt he wasnt settling. Also he told me that mums older child was the same at his age and didnt stop crying about going to school until she was 9 years old! He told me that the mum was very over protective of her son and if he has even the smallest knock or fall she goes off the deep end to the extent that she will convince herself that he needs medical attention!
How the hell is this poor little chap going to cope with school in April next year?? Hes going to freek out, he cant cope with being in a room with 4 other children let alone 20.
I dont want to give up on him, he needs this enviroment, but how am I going to combat his mums smothering? I can be diplomatic, but I'll probably have to be quite harsh with her and tell her to ease off and let the poor kid be a kid and not a clingy mummy's boy, crist he wouldnt even join in the painting and glittering today, he just stood there asking for his mum, I even told him to make the crown for his mum and that made him worst!:(
I dont know what to do? I want to be able to help and get him out of this situation, so at least he's a little prepared for school, but I dont know if my sanity can cope?
what do you think?