Glitter
03-12-2015, 10:15 PM
Apologies if this is not on the right board ....
I have a 6yo mindee who has been coming to me before and after school since early July. This minded doesn't come in the holidays so we had a few weeks in July, then the six week break, then started up again in September.
Every morning when she is dropped off she cries and refuses to come into the house, will cling to her mum/dad, and begs them to take her to school instead. Once she is in and they've gone she is usually fine, she's upset for a few minutes but then comes to choose breakfast, happily plays afterwards, and walks to school no problem.
At home time, when the teacher brings them to the door, as soon as she sees me she bursts into tears and will start sobbing that she wanted her mum/dad to pick her up from school. She will cry all the way back to the house, then once we're back will almost instantly stop and again happily plays, eats dinner, etc. As soon as mum/dad arrives to pick her up she bursts into tears again and says she's had a horrible time and wants to go home.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can help her settle? Her parents have talked about it with her, we've read stories here and at home about going to childcare and working parents, I've tried letting her choose activities and lead the play, letting her help with the meal plans, doing lots of activities I know she enjoys, and so on. It's starting to really get me down and I'm worried that people are going to think I'm being cruel to her, at what point does it start affecting my business? I've already had the class teacher take me aside to ask if there are any problems she needs to be aware of.
Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't really want to give notice because when she is happy she fits in really well and is lovely to have around, also mum and dad don't have much support locally so I'd feel awful leaving them in the lurch. At the same time, things can't go on like this.
I have a 6yo mindee who has been coming to me before and after school since early July. This minded doesn't come in the holidays so we had a few weeks in July, then the six week break, then started up again in September.
Every morning when she is dropped off she cries and refuses to come into the house, will cling to her mum/dad, and begs them to take her to school instead. Once she is in and they've gone she is usually fine, she's upset for a few minutes but then comes to choose breakfast, happily plays afterwards, and walks to school no problem.
At home time, when the teacher brings them to the door, as soon as she sees me she bursts into tears and will start sobbing that she wanted her mum/dad to pick her up from school. She will cry all the way back to the house, then once we're back will almost instantly stop and again happily plays, eats dinner, etc. As soon as mum/dad arrives to pick her up she bursts into tears again and says she's had a horrible time and wants to go home.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can help her settle? Her parents have talked about it with her, we've read stories here and at home about going to childcare and working parents, I've tried letting her choose activities and lead the play, letting her help with the meal plans, doing lots of activities I know she enjoys, and so on. It's starting to really get me down and I'm worried that people are going to think I'm being cruel to her, at what point does it start affecting my business? I've already had the class teacher take me aside to ask if there are any problems she needs to be aware of.
Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't really want to give notice because when she is happy she fits in really well and is lovely to have around, also mum and dad don't have much support locally so I'd feel awful leaving them in the lurch. At the same time, things can't go on like this.