AdeleMarie88
16-11-2015, 04:07 PM
Hello wise ones!
I have a 10month old (nearly 11months) who has suddenly become very clingy and very sensitive. He started with me in Sept when we was 9months and he quickly learnt to crawl and would sit up and explore toys, shake instruments and bang blocks together, very happily. Now two weeks ago mom came in and said her and dad were in the process of splitting up, I was shocked to say the least, and just said I'm sorry to hear that. Since then the boy has become very clingy, he will not move around the room, he sits and moans unless he is on my lap. This is such a turn around from how he was a few weeks ago.
Obviously I know he isn't going to understand his parents are splitting up, but he will notice a difference won't he? I don't know if his behaviour shift is just a developmental milestone or if there is more to it?!
I know through conversation that mom and dad don't spend anytime together anymore, every weekend they alternate going back to their families, so despite child's young age he will notice this.
I'm stuck as what to do, should I mention this to parents? I am torn between wanting to cuddle this little one all day, to realising I can't because other children need my attention and things have to get done. If I did mention it to parents, what could I realistically expect them to do? They are ending their marriage, they are obviously angry with each other (they let things slip when I see them) so I can't really say to them you need to spend time together like you used to can I?
Any advice will be gratefully received, thanks x
I have a 10month old (nearly 11months) who has suddenly become very clingy and very sensitive. He started with me in Sept when we was 9months and he quickly learnt to crawl and would sit up and explore toys, shake instruments and bang blocks together, very happily. Now two weeks ago mom came in and said her and dad were in the process of splitting up, I was shocked to say the least, and just said I'm sorry to hear that. Since then the boy has become very clingy, he will not move around the room, he sits and moans unless he is on my lap. This is such a turn around from how he was a few weeks ago.
Obviously I know he isn't going to understand his parents are splitting up, but he will notice a difference won't he? I don't know if his behaviour shift is just a developmental milestone or if there is more to it?!
I know through conversation that mom and dad don't spend anytime together anymore, every weekend they alternate going back to their families, so despite child's young age he will notice this.
I'm stuck as what to do, should I mention this to parents? I am torn between wanting to cuddle this little one all day, to realising I can't because other children need my attention and things have to get done. If I did mention it to parents, what could I realistically expect them to do? They are ending their marriage, they are obviously angry with each other (they let things slip when I see them) so I can't really say to them you need to spend time together like you used to can I?
Any advice will be gratefully received, thanks x