Dominique
26-09-2015, 08:28 PM
I have new mindee, nearly 3 (one day/week, he’s been in my house 3 times), who gets upset, distraught even when he needs to go home. He struggles with leaving playdates with friends as well though not as badly. I know a lot of kids struggle when they need to stop having fun but not to that extent. Mum is very good, very patient, very calm, talks him through the event, “yes it is sad/hard but we need to …. so we need to go home” etc. Mum tried the very gentle and slow approach which dragged out the leaving process to about ½ hour the first time as he was so upset.
Yesterday, I took him home, thinking he may behave differently with me rather than with mum but it wasn’t any easier on him. I tried a slightly quicker process as I wondered if it might better for him but it doesn’t seem to be the case. He came and did all I asked him to, poor little thing, but he was sobbing so hard his speech was completely incoherent.
The thing is, he gets stuck in that feeling of sadness but somehow can’t move on from that and can sob for 15/20 minutes or longer. Distracting him doesn’t work at all. Mum and I are at a loss as to what could make it easier for him. Any thoughts/advice?
Yesterday, I took him home, thinking he may behave differently with me rather than with mum but it wasn’t any easier on him. I tried a slightly quicker process as I wondered if it might better for him but it doesn’t seem to be the case. He came and did all I asked him to, poor little thing, but he was sobbing so hard his speech was completely incoherent.
The thing is, he gets stuck in that feeling of sadness but somehow can’t move on from that and can sob for 15/20 minutes or longer. Distracting him doesn’t work at all. Mum and I are at a loss as to what could make it easier for him. Any thoughts/advice?