Help with wording please

[AliceK]

Hi
I had a visit yesterday for a space and they want the space but I don't feel my setting is right for the child. This child although is not yet 2 is a big big toddler who has never socialised with other children. He therefore has no idea on how to behave with either toys (not a problem) or worringly around other children. He is very boisterous and just pushes the other children over, not in a naughty way, he just doesn't know how to act around them and because he is so big for his age he was even pushing children over who are older than him. I have 2 x 1yr olds here sometimes as well as my 2/3yr olds. I don't feel the 1yr olds would be safe around him and in the hour visit that he was here yesterday I couldn't take my eyes off him for a second. I can't be like that every day. My 1 yr olds are very wobbly on their feet, you could blow on them and they would fall over lol.My nerves were shot lol. Now I need to email and tell the grandparents that I can't offer them the space and I want to be tactfully honest. How can I word this?? I don't want to lie and say the space is gone because obviously it is still being advertised. Please help!!

xxx

[cupcake22]

Hi
Can you not say that due to a change in circumstances the space is no longer available. That covers a multitude of sins without being specific.

Good luck
Cupcake22

[lollipop kid]

Hello. Although this is a hard one, I'd say something along the lines of:

"Thank you for coming to see me [yesterday]. It was lovely meeting you and xxx. Having had an opportunity to observe xxx and his style of play at the present time, I do not think that my setting is the right one for him currently.

I wish you well in your search for childcare.

Best wishes,

xxx"

I don't think you need to say any more than that.

All the best,

L

[Maza]

Great wording from lollipop kid. I once had to write an email to a parent who I didn't want to take on. It is less personal if you talk about the 'setting' not being right for the child. I love the term 'style of play'! Maybe if they asked you for more details you could say that you felt he would benefit from a setting with more space. x

[AliceK]

Thank you so much. Some excellent phrases there :thumbsup:

Just about to press the Send button.

xxx

[lollipop kid]

Great wording from lollipop kid. I once had to write an email to a parent who I didn't want to take on. It is less personal if you talk about the 'setting' not being right for the child. I love the term 'style of play'! Maybe if they asked you for more details you could say that you felt he would benefit from a setting with more space. x

Thanks, Maza. Or you could say that he might benefit from a setting where there is a mix of children older than x, who would be of a more advanced stage of physical development than the children you have in your care currently.

Good luck,

L