vintagechick
08-01-2015, 09:55 AM
Please be kind to me, I am new to this forum and fairly new to minding (though was a nanny for many years!)
I have 3 children, the youngest is 5 and in yr 1. Last Sept a new boy started with me (M) whom my son new from school settling in sessions (small school, reception/yr 1 in same class) and for some reason had taken a dislike to.
We had some problems initially, nothing physical, just M being left out and my son not being happy to share his things (fine with other children) I spoke with mum, and she said M was very happy coming here, (he is a very lonesome child and does not want to join in but likes to play by himself and has trouble interacting/showing emotion etc - (the school have referred him as it is suspected he is on the autistic spectrum)
I spoke to my son and explained why I needed to childmind (means I can be at home and not have to go out to work as did previously putting him in childcare etc) and things seemed to be settling down and going well, by Christmas M had really settled and come out of his shell, both here and at school (I volunteer in their class) so all was well.
However, since returning to school on Monday my son has been nothing short of mean to this little lad, and it has started to get physical (on both sides, but always instigated by my son) Yesterday M was shoved across the room with force so he bent my boys fingers right back, mine was sent to his room and M just went and lay under the table (I felt awful)
This morning my son was having a meltdown in the car and M was obviously looking at him so my son threw his bag at him and thumped him. We hadn't left yet so I took my son indoors, and told his Dad to take him to school, it was awful.
I really cant go on like this, but there is no alternative childcare for M as we live in a tiny village, the other child-minder has no space for him and there is no after school clubs. I really don't know what to do for the best. I hate to think what this poor little lad must be going through, but to be honest he seems unfazed by it all. The school say there are no problems there.
Has anyone else been through this or offer words of wisdom? I just don't know what to do for the best.
I have 3 children, the youngest is 5 and in yr 1. Last Sept a new boy started with me (M) whom my son new from school settling in sessions (small school, reception/yr 1 in same class) and for some reason had taken a dislike to.
We had some problems initially, nothing physical, just M being left out and my son not being happy to share his things (fine with other children) I spoke with mum, and she said M was very happy coming here, (he is a very lonesome child and does not want to join in but likes to play by himself and has trouble interacting/showing emotion etc - (the school have referred him as it is suspected he is on the autistic spectrum)
I spoke to my son and explained why I needed to childmind (means I can be at home and not have to go out to work as did previously putting him in childcare etc) and things seemed to be settling down and going well, by Christmas M had really settled and come out of his shell, both here and at school (I volunteer in their class) so all was well.
However, since returning to school on Monday my son has been nothing short of mean to this little lad, and it has started to get physical (on both sides, but always instigated by my son) Yesterday M was shoved across the room with force so he bent my boys fingers right back, mine was sent to his room and M just went and lay under the table (I felt awful)
This morning my son was having a meltdown in the car and M was obviously looking at him so my son threw his bag at him and thumped him. We hadn't left yet so I took my son indoors, and told his Dad to take him to school, it was awful.
I really cant go on like this, but there is no alternative childcare for M as we live in a tiny village, the other child-minder has no space for him and there is no after school clubs. I really don't know what to do for the best. I hate to think what this poor little lad must be going through, but to be honest he seems unfazed by it all. The school say there are no problems there.
Has anyone else been through this or offer words of wisdom? I just don't know what to do for the best.