Buzz Lightyear
08-09-2014, 12:44 PM
I've a mindee off sick today, he's new and as a result, we have good and bad days with his settling in.
Good days consist of minimal crying but will scream the place down if I go out of the room or out of his sight (he's 1) and I understand it's because he's new and settling still.
Bad days however consist of screaming and crying (more of a temper thing) all day long and I'm not exaggerating!! I comfort him and he continues to scream and cry and fights his way off me and when I put him down, he gets even more upset. I have him four days a week.
I also have a small child of my own (under a year) and when the minded child is here, my own child often looses my attention as I'm comforting the mindee and for that, I feel extremely guilty. It's no secret I mainly do this job as it fits around my own family and currently, I'm struggling to make that work around the new child.
As awful as this sounds, it's been lovely not to have him today. I had the whole 'Sunday night' feeling last night but that message this morning was golden. I'm trying to work with mum on getting him more settled but honestly, I think the parent loves that he cries all day as the other day when we had a good day, parent said "oh don't you miss me anymore?"
By not having him here today, it's meant lots of lovely quality time with my little one. I guess I just feel guilty taking them on.... I didn't need to financially but parents were struggling and I felt sorry for them but as a result, I've jeopardised my own time with my child. Now do I give it time for the child to settle? (as it has literally been just 3 weeks) or would you say it's not working before the 6-week cooling off period ends (something I insist on having but have never once had to use before).
Sorry it's long winded but in my shoes, what would YOU do?
TIA.
Good days consist of minimal crying but will scream the place down if I go out of the room or out of his sight (he's 1) and I understand it's because he's new and settling still.
Bad days however consist of screaming and crying (more of a temper thing) all day long and I'm not exaggerating!! I comfort him and he continues to scream and cry and fights his way off me and when I put him down, he gets even more upset. I have him four days a week.
I also have a small child of my own (under a year) and when the minded child is here, my own child often looses my attention as I'm comforting the mindee and for that, I feel extremely guilty. It's no secret I mainly do this job as it fits around my own family and currently, I'm struggling to make that work around the new child.
As awful as this sounds, it's been lovely not to have him today. I had the whole 'Sunday night' feeling last night but that message this morning was golden. I'm trying to work with mum on getting him more settled but honestly, I think the parent loves that he cries all day as the other day when we had a good day, parent said "oh don't you miss me anymore?"
By not having him here today, it's meant lots of lovely quality time with my little one. I guess I just feel guilty taking them on.... I didn't need to financially but parents were struggling and I felt sorry for them but as a result, I've jeopardised my own time with my child. Now do I give it time for the child to settle? (as it has literally been just 3 weeks) or would you say it's not working before the 6-week cooling off period ends (something I insist on having but have never once had to use before).
Sorry it's long winded but in my shoes, what would YOU do?
TIA.