What a day :(

[Jayse74]

Do not know where to start lol!

Two Ey's come first thing then out to a group until midday. Then home ready for 1 more mindee to arrive. Boy does not seem to mix very well. He just seems to find it hard playing well with others, keeps stealing toys and can sometimes become very rough. Seems to have no boundries whatsoever. Likes to make both ey's play up a bit with his antics. Nothing seems to work, planned or otherwise. He seems to have moments of clarity and will play well and sing, read etc. This is great and he will always be very enthusiastic.

But the disruption he is causing is becoming difficult now. I feel as if he does not fit our setting which makes me feel unhappy. He does attend a daycare nursery but they tell mum pretty much nothing other than he is good! But when he is here, never asks for mum or wants to leave etc.

Just finding it hard for us to work something out for him.

Today was hard work! makes me laugh when people say its easy... if proposals and plans go ahead how are things going to work with children that need so much one-to-one? 1-30 is going to be insane!

[wee_elf]

Oh no it sounds like a truly awful draining day :(. Do you think the little chaps parents would consent to a meeting with yourself, nursery and them - you could sell it as a developmental review? xx

[blue bear]

Do you think it might be because he is part time so feels the need to play up because the other two are settled with each other and he feels the odd one out?
Could you maybe ask if you could have him for the whole day as a one off and see if he is any better.

[Jayse74]

Oh no it sounds like a truly awful draining day :(. Do you think the little chaps parents would consent to a meeting with yourself, nursery and them - you could sell it as a developmental review? xx

Yes thinking about this! We have asked if there is anything to work on but not really had much feedback. Going to see how things pan out next week. Hopefully we can work together and help.

[Jayse74]

Do you think it might be because he is part time so feels the need to play up because the other two are settled with each other and he feels the odd one out?
Could you maybe ask if you could have him for the whole day as a one off and see if he is any better.

Could well be that, then again the younger two can be a bit... they see him do it and think "Yes we can also".

Not sure about the whole day as this is a temp thing whilst the parent attends something. We have also tried focusing on what the child really likes.

[miffy]

How long have you looked after him? How often does he come to you? And how old is he?

Sorry for all the questions but the answers may have a bearing on why he behaves as he does.

Could you visit his nursery whilst he is there and see how he behaves there. Might be a good opportunity to talk to his key worker then too.

Miffy xx

[wee_elf]

Sorry another thought, is it maybe because he is coming in and the other two have already settled into their play? Could you maybe try going straight out to the garden to a exciting activity as soon as he arrives? xx

[Kirstylob]

I was thinking what wee elf said. Maybe he plays up because the other two are comfortable together and he feels like an intruder? Also if he arrives half way through the day the other two have been playing all morning together and he might find it hard to then join in.

[Jayse74]

How long have you looked after him? How often does he come to you? And how old is he?

Sorry for all the questions but the answers may have a bearing on why he behaves as he does.

Could you visit his nursery whilst he is there and see how he behaves there. Might be a good opportunity to talk to his key worker then too.

Miffy xx

We have been minding him for about a month or so now,

2 half days a week.

He is 2 and a few months but people/mindee's wrongly assume he is 3 due to his size (tall for his age)

This is a very short term thing whilst mum attends a course.

English is not his native langauge and we do know there is a barrier with communication. He is pretty good at words, can understand things etc but he will often babble in his own language.

We really want him to be happy and settle in. I do remember when he first came the two younger ey's were on holiday so it was just him at first. He has no issue's with using the tiolet, has a healthy appetite etc. Just little things he will try and get others to mess about when eating. Disrupts others when they are engrossed in stuff. just little things tbh. Trying to think of stuff we can focus on and big up when he is good. Just feeling a little deflated at the mo.

[Jayse74]

Sorry another thought, is it maybe because he is coming in and the other two have already settled into their play? Could you maybe try going straight out to the garden to a exciting activity as soon as he arrives? xx

We will try this next time, swap the day around a bit.

[Jayse74]

I was thinking what wee elf said. Maybe he plays up because the other two are comfortable together and he feels like an intruder? Also if he arrives half way through the day the other two have been playing all morning together and he might find it hard to then join in.

Yes it is possible! We think he is around older children at the nursery. He does act different around older mindee's when the younger's are not here.

Also everyone says hello and greets him when he arrives, he also knows some of them by name now and is excited to see them.

[Jayse74]

Little update!

Got 5 minutes before the afternoon session. The boy attended this morning and seemed very settled and had lots of fun. Even managed to do some counting and then reading. Small bit of slyness near the end of the session but no problems really. He even sat and ate his snack without disrupting the other mindee.

Wednesday will be the tester as the 3 will be together again.

:)