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sarahstanbridge
24-07-2008, 09:27 AM
hi all,

need a rant so please bear with me.

am really peed off now!! about 2 months a ago got a call for a 6
month old who was in nursery care needing full time care as mum was
not happy with the nusery. seemed really keen when they were here.
next afteroon got call to say yes wanted me. told them to let me
know when they needed me to start as they had to give notice to
nursery. anyway didnt here back for over a month and then they rang
to say can we do contracts k has left nurserythis week and we have
been trying to ring you. now i should have realised then what she
was going to be like but i said yes as i really could do with the
extra money. she came round 3 weeks ago to do contracts. arranged a
settling session 5 days before she was meant to start. she rang said
really sorry little one not well having tests in hospital could we
have a settling session the day she meant to start and pospone start
date for 2 weeks time. as she was going to be on holiday the 2nd week
she was here anyway. like a fool i say yes. asked for deposit she
said i bring it with me next week. guess what? she never showed
after 3 days managed to track her down up north visiting family.
rearranged settling session for this pm with start date on monday.
just had call to say the little one is still up north can she come on
monday. i said you want to just start her on monday without a
settling session , she says NO just settle in session on monday so i
said can you drop deposit in and when exactly do you want her to
start, then she tells me that she off today to hand her cv into
agencies as she does not have a job urghhhhhh..... she must have
known that last week when i spoke to her. if she doesnt show on
monday she can forget it ? what would you all do? never had
anything like this in 6 years minding. sorry so long and thanks if
you got to the bottom.

sarah

Annie_T
24-07-2008, 09:32 AM
oh no thats bad. cant stand people that mess you about .. i mean its your living not a hobby

i hope does show hun but if not i would say sorry had give space to another child as need space filled

mimo
24-07-2008, 09:37 AM
i would See if she turns up on monday .If she didnt show i would put the pressure on her by telling her that you have had another enquiry and you need a definate start date and the deposit from her by wednesday as you can hold her place open any longer.
I would also make sure she pays in advance so that if she keeps changing her mind all the time you have atleast been paid.
Good luck

katickles
24-07-2008, 10:04 AM
Personally If it were me & she didn't show Monday (not that i'd hold my breath thats she's gong to!!), then i would forget it. Wouldn't ring her either. Then the next time she calls, I'd very calmly say sorry but I have decided that I am not going to take your little one one. I would say that she has messed me around far to much & that I didn't think we'd have a good working relationship together.

TBH I don't think lo will be with you- mums not going to pay childcare if she hasn't even got a job!

Sorry you have been messed about like this - some parents just arn't worth it. x

Bevbeetle
24-07-2008, 10:25 AM
I feel for you:crying: :crying:

A friend of a friend did the same to me phoned me the night before mindee was due to start i was gutted felt useless cryed all night, anyway that was 9yrs ago my business going really well fully booked waiting list, the person who let me down got no job no husband (he left because she mad) kids in trouble all the time , what a lucky escape i had !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

miffy
24-07-2008, 10:51 AM
Think if it were me I'd just cut my losses here and start looking for a replacement.

Mum has messed you about and now you know she doesn't even have a job - don't expect she will turn up on Monday and even if she did I still think she will mess you around.

You have no contract and no obligation to this mum so just forget her and if she does contact you say you have had to let the place go.

Good luck - hope you fill the space soon

Miffy xx

Pipsqueak
24-07-2008, 11:29 AM
spot on advice from Miffy:thumbsup:

Donkey
24-07-2008, 12:34 PM
sorry to hear of your troubles, but I would def do what miffy says
xx

FizzysFriends
24-07-2008, 01:03 PM
I'd send her packing, she's bound to cause you trouble in the future.

wellybelly
24-07-2008, 02:50 PM
Next, You'd get a sob story every time she is due to pay. Dont get involved!

sarah707
24-07-2008, 05:30 PM
Next, You'd get a sob story every time she is due to pay. Dont get involved!

Yup! I agree! :rolleyes:

Bushpig
24-07-2008, 06:13 PM
Think if it were me I'd just cut my losses here and start looking for a replacement.

Mum has messed you about and now you know she doesn't even have a job - don't expect she will turn up on Monday and even if she did I still think she will mess you around.

You have no contract and no obligation to this mum so just forget her and if she does contact you say you have had to let the place go.

Good luck - hope you fill the space soon

Miffy xx

Spot on Miffy! This type of person is just NOT WORTH THE HASSLE. If she is messing you around like this already PRIOR to starting, imagine what a nightmare she will be when she starts bringing the kids...?? :(

sarahstanbridge
24-07-2008, 06:19 PM
hi, have texted her (only way to get hold of her) and said basically i feel i have been very flexible and understanding, that i am a business and have bill mortage etc. if i do not receive the deposit by monday i will give the space to some else. not i have anyone lined up but she doesnt know that. i guess i will just have to wait to see what happens.

Bushpig
24-07-2008, 06:22 PM
That's all you can do. The ball is in her court. If you do get another inquiry, and the places go, it is her loss.

I would not be happy taking on someone like her on though tbh :( Childminding is demanding enough, with long hours and so much planning etc... and deserves prompt payment, as with any job.

polobear1970
24-07-2008, 06:22 PM
I agree with the rest, if this is what she is like now.

Sometime think we try to hard, and that makes them think we have only them to worry about.

Lisa

breezy
24-07-2008, 06:24 PM
Dont hold your breath! let us know what happens though!

polobear1970
24-07-2008, 06:29 PM
I'm with the others, think you need to cut your loses

sarahstanbridge
25-07-2008, 08:38 AM
thanks for your replies, not had any reply to text yest but i will let you now what happens.:panic:

Chimps Childminding
25-07-2008, 05:03 PM
I agree with what everyone else has said - you can only wait for so long! I would be inclined to leave things and if someone else needs you then if she gets back to you wanting the space say very sweetly, that you are very sorry but as she didn't appear to want to pay a deposit, she couldn't expect you to keep the space open for her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:angry:

sarahstanbridge
28-07-2008, 08:58 AM
well, i got a text last night saying that she has thought about my text over the weekend and has decided that she is not going to put k into childcare until she finds a full time job because of the expense and that she is sorry. my next question is she has my registration number and i want to make sure she is not claiming anything by using it. have a feeling she has been having me on from the beginning! who can i contact? does anyone know? thanks sarah

angeldelight
28-07-2008, 09:04 AM
Sounds like she was messing you around from the start

I think you had a lucky escape

Did you give her your reg number then ?

You could contact tax credits and tell them you are not minding the little one - just incase she has made a claim

Angel xxx

sarahstanbridge
28-07-2008, 09:11 AM
yes, she has my ey number because we had got all the contracts done. she was meant to start on 7 june but then lo was ill (at least thats what she told me) so we posponed start date then she disappears for a week up north then she never showed up for next settling session as she had left lo up north with her mother and thats when she let slip that she did not have a job. she had a new start date of today now she has decided shes not wanting childcare. she has lead me a merry dance really.

miffy
28-07-2008, 03:58 PM
If you are worried this mum is using your reg number to claim WTC then call their helpline on 0845 3003900 and report her

Miffy xx

angeldelight
28-07-2008, 05:35 PM
Did you call them ?

Angel xx

Spangles
28-07-2008, 05:46 PM
I'm sorry you had this awful woman waste your time like that.

It definitely was a very lucky escape, she would have been a nightmare by the sounds of it.

Hope you get another mindee soon with responsible and reliable parents.

x

sarahstanbridge
29-07-2008, 11:41 AM
hi angel

i have tried ringing the wftc several times now but all i get is a recorded message telling me that are expiencing high numbers of calls and to ring back!!! will keep tryig. thanks for the number

jaz
29-07-2008, 11:52 AM
Hope you get through eventually, let us know what happens

J
x

Minstrel
29-07-2008, 12:13 PM
Lots of people have to renew tax credit claims before 31st july so perhaps try on friday when it should be less busy.
hth
xx

Julia
29-07-2008, 01:15 PM
hi all,

need a rant so please bear with me.

am really peed off now!! about 2 months a ago got a call for a 6
month old who was in nursery care needing full time care as mum was
not happy with the nusery. seemed really keen when they were here.
next afteroon got call to say yes wanted me. told them to let me
know when they needed me to start as they had to give notice to
nursery. anyway didnt here back for over a month and then they rang
to say can we do contracts k has left nurserythis week and we have
been trying to ring you. now i should have realised then what she
was going to be like but i said yes as i really could do with the
extra money. she came round 3 weeks ago to do contracts. arranged a
settling session 5 days before she was meant to start. she rang said
really sorry little one not well having tests in hospital could we
have a settling session the day she meant to start and pospone start
date for 2 weeks time. as she was going to be on holiday the 2nd week
she was here anyway. like a fool i say yes. asked for deposit she
said i bring it with me next week. guess what? she never showed
after 3 days managed to track her down up north visiting family.
rearranged settling session for this pm with start date on monday.
just had call to say the little one is still up north can she come on
monday. i said you want to just start her on monday without a
settling session , she says NO just settle in session on monday so i
said can you drop deposit in and when exactly do you want her to
start, then she tells me that she off today to hand her cv into
agencies as she does not have a job urghhhhhh..... she must have
known that last week when i spoke to her. if she doesnt show on
monday she can forget it ? what would you all do? never had
anything like this in 6 years minding. sorry so long and thanks if
you got to the bottom.

sarah

Your very lucky if youve never had one of these before, Ive had my fair share and everyone elses in the area.

If she doesnt turn up, stuff her, tell her the position is now filled and tel her to find another childminder to put up with her cra*

Your service is more valuable to someone else.