KatieFS
30-03-2014, 08:06 AM
Hi all
I am planning a small after school party as a farewell to a child- age 2.5. Theme pirate and princess!
But 1 of the older children I have who is nearly 7 is very competitive. She is very smart, you would think she is 8 or 9 and often in games she wins and sometimes engineers the game so she wins. Havent spotted it yet, but i think sometimes she cheats.
She takes the games very seriously and the rules- which makes for a difficult and not fun game for a 2.5 year old and the other children ill have there- they are 6, 9 and 2x 10 yr olds, Ill also have set if year old twins so won't be able to be full time referee to manage her during games. The room will be busy, 8 bodies possible so can't do anything too physical
Usually ends up the other 6 yr old getting upset as she is pushed out by competitive child, the older children end up losing interest as no one else feels involved as she generally takes over the game.
It's a shame as dies spoil things for others, for example the other day playing a game she won, other children wanted to carry on the game to finish but she got annoyed as its 'game over not in the rules' and threw the cards over the table. Yes we had words but it has spoilt it for the other child.
Any suggestions on
1/ the party - games? Dare I say non competitive games. I don't agree with them really but I feel sense of dread. If I didn't have the babies there I could manage her during games but I know I'll have limited time. Games where all the children have fun but there isn't always one winner. I usually do colouring as children like that and treasure hunt. Works well as older children usually finish first, everyone who completes gets a prize!
2/ strategies on how to deal with her and other children. Does anyone have this as a 'golden rule' in there house, was thinking if adding it to mine.??
I am planning a small after school party as a farewell to a child- age 2.5. Theme pirate and princess!
But 1 of the older children I have who is nearly 7 is very competitive. She is very smart, you would think she is 8 or 9 and often in games she wins and sometimes engineers the game so she wins. Havent spotted it yet, but i think sometimes she cheats.
She takes the games very seriously and the rules- which makes for a difficult and not fun game for a 2.5 year old and the other children ill have there- they are 6, 9 and 2x 10 yr olds, Ill also have set if year old twins so won't be able to be full time referee to manage her during games. The room will be busy, 8 bodies possible so can't do anything too physical
Usually ends up the other 6 yr old getting upset as she is pushed out by competitive child, the older children end up losing interest as no one else feels involved as she generally takes over the game.
It's a shame as dies spoil things for others, for example the other day playing a game she won, other children wanted to carry on the game to finish but she got annoyed as its 'game over not in the rules' and threw the cards over the table. Yes we had words but it has spoilt it for the other child.
Any suggestions on
1/ the party - games? Dare I say non competitive games. I don't agree with them really but I feel sense of dread. If I didn't have the babies there I could manage her during games but I know I'll have limited time. Games where all the children have fun but there isn't always one winner. I usually do colouring as children like that and treasure hunt. Works well as older children usually finish first, everyone who completes gets a prize!
2/ strategies on how to deal with her and other children. Does anyone have this as a 'golden rule' in there house, was thinking if adding it to mine.??