Chanelle
20-03-2014, 01:12 PM
Hi Everyone.
I'm after a little bit of advise about one of my mindees who I have had for nearly a year.
She is going to be 3 in April. The problem I have is that she has issues with changes in routine. I don't mean that if our regular routine changes I mean in the fact at certain times of the day she becomes upset and cries but the tears are often over very trivial things like putting on her coat and hat, she has to know where her bag is and gets upset at nappy times ... Generally she is very happy and settled during play times, enjoys joining in and playing, taking part in activities and new experiences but its just at times like getting near to pick up times I will say, 5 more minutes play then its time to pick up .... from Pre-school, this is immediately followed by tears and she repeats my hat! my hat or my coat etc ... During these times and during the day I reassure her that Mummy is collecting her as she often says this at these times.
I've tried all the obvious things like trying not to draw too much attention to these change over times, I've tried reassurance, I've tried lots of praise etc .. But to be honest I am at a loss. This little girl has had alot of illnesses like general coughs and colds and always seems to have something wrong with her but never anything bad enough to warrant time off. I have a good connection with this child and she is happy to come and talks about me at weekends and on days she is coming but I have no idea why she is doing it or how to stop the constant tears during the day. What I don't want to happen is for her to become unsettled more.
Its just to the point now where it is starting to irritate me as I know there is nothing wrong but no matter how much reassurance she has nothing helps so I'm hoping someone has some advice or even has had a child like this?
Sorry fir the long post and thank you in advance
Wendy x
I'm after a little bit of advise about one of my mindees who I have had for nearly a year.
She is going to be 3 in April. The problem I have is that she has issues with changes in routine. I don't mean that if our regular routine changes I mean in the fact at certain times of the day she becomes upset and cries but the tears are often over very trivial things like putting on her coat and hat, she has to know where her bag is and gets upset at nappy times ... Generally she is very happy and settled during play times, enjoys joining in and playing, taking part in activities and new experiences but its just at times like getting near to pick up times I will say, 5 more minutes play then its time to pick up .... from Pre-school, this is immediately followed by tears and she repeats my hat! my hat or my coat etc ... During these times and during the day I reassure her that Mummy is collecting her as she often says this at these times.
I've tried all the obvious things like trying not to draw too much attention to these change over times, I've tried reassurance, I've tried lots of praise etc .. But to be honest I am at a loss. This little girl has had alot of illnesses like general coughs and colds and always seems to have something wrong with her but never anything bad enough to warrant time off. I have a good connection with this child and she is happy to come and talks about me at weekends and on days she is coming but I have no idea why she is doing it or how to stop the constant tears during the day. What I don't want to happen is for her to become unsettled more.
Its just to the point now where it is starting to irritate me as I know there is nothing wrong but no matter how much reassurance she has nothing helps so I'm hoping someone has some advice or even has had a child like this?
Sorry fir the long post and thank you in advance
Wendy x