Tealady
17-02-2014, 07:25 PM
I've posted before about sibling sisters who come one day a week and my efforts to get them settled.
They were due last Thursday. The toddler had tonsillitis so the baby came on her own.
Well Baby was unsettled as would be expected, but no more than a typical 9 monther with separation anxiety. Mum said she liked Peppa Pig so I put back to back episodes on which distracted her, then I could see her peering at me, trying to work me out. By 10:30 she was playing with only a short burst of tears here and there. She's never eaten a thing here before bit she ate a huge lunch. It was lovely. Made me think we might get there eventually.
So this week is half term. They are TTO. I suggested to Mum that she pop in for a cuppa with the girls and then on Thursday they come for an hour or two on their own. Mum agreed. However she has since discussed this with her 27mth old daughter, who has said she doesn't want to come without Mum so they are just popping in for a cuppa, for an hour on Thursday, all together.
I have offered lots of chances for extra sessions, but the girls have either been too tired or too ill. They go to grandparents for the other two days Mum works. Mum has said the grandparents can't see why Mum has chosen a CM one day a week as they would have the girls on that day too. I extended the settling in period until the end of the month as I thought Mum might pull the girls out due to all the distress. I have a feeling that on Thursday when they come if there are too many tears Mum won't bring them in.
If that happens I will feel that I have done all I can. I realise sickness can't be helped but I do wonder if there is more to this. If they don't come in I am thinking I will terminate as it is a bit of a lost cause. Would that be the right thing to do? I've never terminated before and don't want to give up but I am beginning to get a bit of a feeling about this.
They were due last Thursday. The toddler had tonsillitis so the baby came on her own.
Well Baby was unsettled as would be expected, but no more than a typical 9 monther with separation anxiety. Mum said she liked Peppa Pig so I put back to back episodes on which distracted her, then I could see her peering at me, trying to work me out. By 10:30 she was playing with only a short burst of tears here and there. She's never eaten a thing here before bit she ate a huge lunch. It was lovely. Made me think we might get there eventually.
So this week is half term. They are TTO. I suggested to Mum that she pop in for a cuppa with the girls and then on Thursday they come for an hour or two on their own. Mum agreed. However she has since discussed this with her 27mth old daughter, who has said she doesn't want to come without Mum so they are just popping in for a cuppa, for an hour on Thursday, all together.
I have offered lots of chances for extra sessions, but the girls have either been too tired or too ill. They go to grandparents for the other two days Mum works. Mum has said the grandparents can't see why Mum has chosen a CM one day a week as they would have the girls on that day too. I extended the settling in period until the end of the month as I thought Mum might pull the girls out due to all the distress. I have a feeling that on Thursday when they come if there are too many tears Mum won't bring them in.
If that happens I will feel that I have done all I can. I realise sickness can't be helped but I do wonder if there is more to this. If they don't come in I am thinking I will terminate as it is a bit of a lost cause. Would that be the right thing to do? I've never terminated before and don't want to give up but I am beginning to get a bit of a feeling about this.