Notice

[rebecca179]

Hi all,

I handed in my notice today, as a nanny. I'm dreading the next 3 weeks of my notice that I have to work.
Any words of wisdom to keep the peace? Mum wasn't best pleased and was not expecting it at all!! I told her is wasn't anything personal against her or her children and I've enjoyed ( very few days, obviously didn't say that) the time spent with the children after the last 8 months.
I've decided to take a break from child care which I told her, not to move to another family. She bad mouthed my choice and continuously said how I was leaving her in the .... I bit my tongue and left with my head held high after having to stick up for my decision and childcare break!!

I know it's done, the hard bits over but god knows what's coming my way....! Any advice would be great!!

Thanks xx

[FizzWizz]

Well done for sticking to your guns, like you said you have done the hardest bit. If it were me I would just carry on as normal, opening the door with a smile on my face, not rising to any uncalled for comments and counting down the days :-)

[MessybutHappy]

I agree, don't rise, stick to a limited number of responses, Mum will get the message!
Good luck:-)

[FussyElmo]

remember the op is a nanny not cm so will have to go the their house and is probably worried about the atmosphere there.

Good luck remember the reason you gave notice and keep smiling 3 weeks will go quite quickly :thumbsup:

[rebecca179]

Thanks everyone! The kids got told last night so that will b fun for me!!

[rebecca179]

* sad face

[MessybutHappy]

remember the op is a nanny not cm so will have to go the their house and is probably worried about the atmosphere there.

Good luck remember the reason you gave notice and keep smiling 3 weeks will go quite quickly :thumbsup:

I did clock that, and yes, the atmosphere will be awkward, I hope the Mum feels calmer after a night's rest! All the same, keep smiling, count down the days, come back here and have a good moan if it helps!

[loocyloo]

I gave notice in several nanny jobs but it was usually a natural ending or I was going overseas (or home!) with dh and it was usually fine. But one family I gave notice as I couldn't work with the parents and I found it very hard to turn up each day and mum was awkward but I did just have to grin and ignore and carry on being bright and bubbly ( whilst enjoying the fact it annoyed mum !) And mentally counted down the days!

[watford wizz]

Sorry it's hard for you x keep your professional head on and be the adult, you may just have to ride out parents tantrum. Some people are very selfish and only ever see life from their point of view x

[clairer]

Grin and bear it. Stay polite and professional. Hopefully she will get used to the idea in a couple of days and your last few weeks will be happy ones, or at least not as bad ad you thought.

[rickysmiths]

Don't feel guilty at all they would give you notice in a minute if it suited them and not give you a second thought. They have plenty of time to find a replacement and that is what they will have to do.

You look forward to your break.

[rebecca179]

Thanks everyone. Was awful this morning, the mum and eldest Didnt speak to me just said bye to the other siblings and left. I'm already counting down the days! *hurry up time*

[Koala]

I was just thinking - How has your day gone - Crap I see. :panic:

[birch24]

Thanks everyone. Was awful this morning, the mum and eldest Didnt speak to me just said bye to the other siblings and left. I'm already counting down the days! *hurry up time*

I don't think you should have to put up with that. Can't you say if they can't be civil maybe they should find someone more quickly. You do have a right in any job to leave with notice! I can't believe they are being so rude and childish.

Chin up xx

[Koala]

I don't think you should have to put up with that. Can't you say if they can't be civil maybe they should find someone more quickly. You do have a right in any job to leave with notice! I can't believe they are being so rude and childish.

Chin up xx

Unfortunately, I can beleive it. I have met some :censored: people in my life and some never learn and never look at themselves to see if they are in the wrong.

Maybe you could make it into a bit of a game, play them at their own game, be really nice, speak to them directly as if nothing has happened so that they have to be totally ignorant to ignore you or be rude. This may wind them up as much as it is upsetting you. And it will just prove they are not worth it and reinforce your reasons for leaving. Stick to 'em. :thumbsup:

[Tulip]

We're all here for you x

[bunyip]

Just try to "be the better person" and remember it's the mum that needs to do some growing up.

[watford wizz]

Thinking of you hope your ok x

[Bluebell]

aww this is such a shame - I was going to write I hope they had come around after the initial shock. She was not expecting you to leave and you must be good at your job if you are going to be missed and so hard to replace and some initial harsh words are out of order but sometimes we react in ways we regret BUT to continue to act so ignorantly is very rude!

You would think that you wouldn't want to annoy someone who is going to be caring for their children and who as others have pointed out could just leave them in the :censored: !!!.

[jaykay79]

to be honest if it was me i'd seriously consider just leaving, if someone was being rude to me and making my life unhappy i'd just say to her (probably via email/text etc cos am a wimp in the flesh) "i'm afraid as you're having difficulty accepting my decision to leave your employment and have been needlessly rude to me on several occasions now that i have no choice but to leave with immediate effect" see how much "in the ...." x

[Bluebell]

I'd be tempted too but then does it run the risk of not getting her final pay ?

[rebecca179]

I've been told by my work neighbours that my boss has been telling them things that the twins have been saying things about me. I couldn't believe my ears. My boss got told that I don't give them lunch, only crisps. At a play date, someone else's house, which they love, I forced then upstairs while I helped redecorate the house. This was Wednesday. Then that evening I got a text saying from Friday I want u to stay in as the kids need stability?!! I told her when I first started that I was the kind of nanny that like to be out and about all the time and I love to socialise. She thought it was great, then now she wants me to stay In is she able to ask that of me?! They haven't even wen given the chance to say bye to their friends outside of preschool!! Xx

[FloraDora]

Personally I think children do need time in their own home...playing and having time and familiar space to take their play forward and extend it without interuptions ..not constantly socialising. If I was employing a nanny I think I would be 'the manager' and therefore would be able to dictate the activities my children took part in.

[Koala]

Oh Rebecca they are going to make your final weeks miserable. I would confront them now about what has been said about you but get your facts right. I think I may be tempted to turn up late - a bit of tit for tat if they are playing that game :thumbsup: or do you have a dental appointment?

[loocyloo]

i think mum is just wanting to make a point that she is boss!

I worked for a parent like that - despite her saying when she employed me that she wanted the children to go out & about, to explore and have fun ... she soon started telling me I had to wait in for the boiler man to come ( who never came ) or for a parcel to be delivered/picked up ( which never happened ) or, if I told her we were going to the zoo the next day, I would arrive at work to find out that one of the children was going somewhere for lunch 11.30-1.30, or another child was coming over to play! ( the mums always told me that she had arranged it last minute ) I gave notice as I couldn't work like that. I was being treated like a 16 yr old with no experience, where as I was in my mid 20's with lots of qualifications & experience! once I'd given notice mum tried to make life very difficult.

floradora, children do need time in their own house/space to play without interuptions, but IF you employ an experienced nanny, you do need to loosen the reins and trust your nanny. I would have conversations with my employers about what the children did/activities etc, but it was always a 2 way discussion as we all knew the children, and wanted what was best for them. it also depends on how your employer speaks to you; passing messages by text is not good!

[jackie 7]

In my last nanny job j soon realised I would have little control over what the children did. A baby was born while I was there and mum wanted/ demanded he was home for lunch every day. I have up planning much as I had yo collect the 14 yr old from school. I managed to do a degree while there. I handed in mg notice when she said her husband wanted to know shy I wasn't changing all the light bulbs snd what did I do all day. I had become a housekeeper/nanny by accident. The worst Thing she said was that she dicing have another child because I didn't want to do babies any more. They will say anything to you because they feel guilty for employing you. Rise above it. They know you need the reference. Smile all day and plan loads of home activities that she has to pay for. Tell her you will do lots of craft activities. Good luck.