tinyp164
18-10-2013, 06:11 PM
Hi,
I have a child whose parents are going through a divorce at the moment, but it's starting to get messy. Child is very settled with me and I have a great relationship with mum. I won't go into too much detail but I'm basically looking for some advice on how to cover my own back.
Every other thurs/fir I pick up from two schools both finishing at the same time. I now use my car to go between both as they aren't far (I'm talking minutes in the car) but walking wouldn't get us there on time. I have an agreement with second class teacher and mum to hold the child for a couple of minutes after school, there were 11 others still in the classroom today when I arrived and this is usual but I still agreed with the teacher and mum just incase. So today step-mum was in the playground and said to me 'I've just texted mum to ask if I should pick child up instead today as you weren't here straight away.' I replied politely, informing her that it is prearranged, I go to two schools and this is already sorted and the playground is still very full.Then mum texts saying do I have child? again I reply politely saying of course I do. Now mum goes on a huge rant about dad, step-mum and divorce, saying they are causing lots of problems I.e. Swapping days of care (they often text mum last minute on Friday saying they will collect but then mum has to unarrange with me at short notice) but won't permentally pick the children up themselves and will only have them from 7pm on a Friday night and moaning if mum isn't in the playground straight away.
Now this is where I need help and advice in how to cover my own back to ensure I'm doing the right thing, at the end of the day I know the child's care and well being is my main priority and I know child is safe and well with me and in her classroom with the teacher.
I have an agreement with school and mum to pick up a couple of minutes late...I'm now thinking I should have this is writing!? All contracts and permission forms are up to date too. What else would you suggest I have in place? I have a feeling it's going to get much worse before it gets better and I do not want to be caught out.
Thank you so much for listening!! I needed to vent and ask for advice!
I have a child whose parents are going through a divorce at the moment, but it's starting to get messy. Child is very settled with me and I have a great relationship with mum. I won't go into too much detail but I'm basically looking for some advice on how to cover my own back.
Every other thurs/fir I pick up from two schools both finishing at the same time. I now use my car to go between both as they aren't far (I'm talking minutes in the car) but walking wouldn't get us there on time. I have an agreement with second class teacher and mum to hold the child for a couple of minutes after school, there were 11 others still in the classroom today when I arrived and this is usual but I still agreed with the teacher and mum just incase. So today step-mum was in the playground and said to me 'I've just texted mum to ask if I should pick child up instead today as you weren't here straight away.' I replied politely, informing her that it is prearranged, I go to two schools and this is already sorted and the playground is still very full.Then mum texts saying do I have child? again I reply politely saying of course I do. Now mum goes on a huge rant about dad, step-mum and divorce, saying they are causing lots of problems I.e. Swapping days of care (they often text mum last minute on Friday saying they will collect but then mum has to unarrange with me at short notice) but won't permentally pick the children up themselves and will only have them from 7pm on a Friday night and moaning if mum isn't in the playground straight away.
Now this is where I need help and advice in how to cover my own back to ensure I'm doing the right thing, at the end of the day I know the child's care and well being is my main priority and I know child is safe and well with me and in her classroom with the teacher.
I have an agreement with school and mum to pick up a couple of minutes late...I'm now thinking I should have this is writing!? All contracts and permission forms are up to date too. What else would you suggest I have in place? I have a feeling it's going to get much worse before it gets better and I do not want to be caught out.
Thank you so much for listening!! I needed to vent and ask for advice!