jazzyjenbo
12-08-2013, 09:20 PM
Hi
I would appreciate any tips you may have to settle the baby I am currently introducing into my setting and also advise on some slightly worrying development issues I have observed. .. See what you think and whether I'm being over cautious on the development bits.
I started a new 11 month old (birthday 10th sept) into my setting last monday doing mon-wed. I have previously had 3 meetings with the parents bringing baby to my setting and meeting my hubby, and my just 1yr old and 2 yr old.
Started on monday at 9am, just did morning, mum collected before lunch.. No problem.
Tuesday.. Cried when mum left (expected) but then settled, my baby (crawling) bumped into her and that was it.. The screaming, crying, was horrendous, just wanting to be picked up, but still wont settle.. Stayed for lunch
Wednesday.. Screaming and balling.. Wants to come to me for comfort and will settle on my lap but as soon as i move or need to put her down to look after the other children she screams and balls again.
I sit on the floor with the children, sit her on my lap and she will still cry, if i sit up on a chair she is fine.
I spoke to the parents about separation anxiety and they by their own admission admit they have 'molly coddled' her... Pass her all toys, pick her up at first cry, etc.
Now this leads to the development problems i have observed. She is a huge baby, approx 25lb i would say, weighs more than my 2 yr old neway. She has poor tone and seems to struggle passing objects from hand to hand, doesn't hold eye contact with me, isnt interested in other children. She can bum shuffle a little bit but if i lie her down to change she will just continue to lie their and not roll over or nethin.
I saw the parents in the park last week carrying her in a babycarrier facing towards them (i've not got nethin against baby carriers but surely on back or forward facing by 11 months).
Also mum is b/f, and uses this as a comforter but doesnt want to express so i can give her milk. No bottle or dummy.
Sorry to ramble, just a little concerned as i've never had such persistent crying when settling a baby and i've settled lots over the last few years.
She just wants to be held all the time, which i just cannot do.
Added to this the development issues i'm really worried. I know they all develop at different rates but looking at my trackers she isnt hitting key milestones.
Any similar experiences would be helpful.. What did you do??
I would appreciate any tips you may have to settle the baby I am currently introducing into my setting and also advise on some slightly worrying development issues I have observed. .. See what you think and whether I'm being over cautious on the development bits.
I started a new 11 month old (birthday 10th sept) into my setting last monday doing mon-wed. I have previously had 3 meetings with the parents bringing baby to my setting and meeting my hubby, and my just 1yr old and 2 yr old.
Started on monday at 9am, just did morning, mum collected before lunch.. No problem.
Tuesday.. Cried when mum left (expected) but then settled, my baby (crawling) bumped into her and that was it.. The screaming, crying, was horrendous, just wanting to be picked up, but still wont settle.. Stayed for lunch
Wednesday.. Screaming and balling.. Wants to come to me for comfort and will settle on my lap but as soon as i move or need to put her down to look after the other children she screams and balls again.
I sit on the floor with the children, sit her on my lap and she will still cry, if i sit up on a chair she is fine.
I spoke to the parents about separation anxiety and they by their own admission admit they have 'molly coddled' her... Pass her all toys, pick her up at first cry, etc.
Now this leads to the development problems i have observed. She is a huge baby, approx 25lb i would say, weighs more than my 2 yr old neway. She has poor tone and seems to struggle passing objects from hand to hand, doesn't hold eye contact with me, isnt interested in other children. She can bum shuffle a little bit but if i lie her down to change she will just continue to lie their and not roll over or nethin.
I saw the parents in the park last week carrying her in a babycarrier facing towards them (i've not got nethin against baby carriers but surely on back or forward facing by 11 months).
Also mum is b/f, and uses this as a comforter but doesnt want to express so i can give her milk. No bottle or dummy.
Sorry to ramble, just a little concerned as i've never had such persistent crying when settling a baby and i've settled lots over the last few years.
She just wants to be held all the time, which i just cannot do.
Added to this the development issues i'm really worried. I know they all develop at different rates but looking at my trackers she isnt hitting key milestones.
Any similar experiences would be helpful.. What did you do??