A little personal situation I'd be interested in opinions

[Memina]

Well where do I begin????

My sister works two days a week very far away so has really long days. We arranged for me to drop my nephew of at school both days and collect him on the Wednesday and drop him straight home as brother in law works from home but school to far and she takes the car. Anyway this is fine as I can do it. However I made it perfectly clear I didnt want to have him until gone 10pm on a Thursday as im heavily pregnant and am exhausted by then.

Roll on numerous favors, can i drop him off at his aunta house who lives down the road from me. Can I take him to grandfather at the main station etc etc. I had a show down with my brother in law because I said I was working and not a taxi service and that they are taking the mick.

Anyway my sister has phoned around other childminders and no one can help. So I suggested a local cab firm who can organise for an escort to be present and told her to organise it with plenty of time so that she can meet the escort.

So yesterday I was asked to do the handover at the gate and this cab driver rocks up with no escort. O explain that the boy is only 7 and travelling alone and should have an escort.

Phone my sister no answer so phone my brother in law who gives me a crappy answer more or less saying there's no other option as I wont help!

So I'm the bady now

Grr no real point to post really just wanted a rant really.

[winstonian]

Poor you :( Families can be hard work. They should be thinking about you being pregnant!

[cathtee]

Why can't BIL get a taxi and collect HIS son.

You shouldn't feel bad they are asking too much of you.

[Memina]

Why can't BIL get a taxi and collect HIS son.

You shouldn't feel bad they are asking too much of you.

Wait for it......

Because he plays football on a Thursday!

[winstonian]

Wait for it......

Because he plays football on a Thursday!

Well that says it all doesnt it? Try not to let it get to you xx

[hectors house]

QUOTE=Memina;1243940]Wait for it......

Because he plays football on a Thursday![/QUOTE]

lazy, selfish :censored:

[cathtee]

Wait for it......

Because he plays football on a Thursday!

Selfish *** :angry:

[jackie 7]

I am so lucky as my sister I really don't get on with lives in Germany and as far as I am concerned can stay here and never visit. I read somewhere that family know which button to press as they created it!!!

[Supernanny86]

Family knows exactly how to wind you up don't they!! This is so a case of do as I say and not as I do as I'm a lazy!!!

*** them because if this situation was the other way round I'm sure they would not be bothered let alone stressing!!

Kxx

[lizann]

poor you such a true saying you can pick your friends but not your family sending you hugs

[clareelizabeth1]

Really football I think I would be telling my brother where to go.

Your defiantly not the baddie in fact I feel angry on your behalf for his comments.

[shortstuff]

sounds like you need to give them a little distance for a while and maybe they will realise just how much you do for them.

I dont speak to any of my family because I got fed up of being dragged into their issues so I fully understand just how annoying it can be.

Stay strong and know you are doing way more than your fair share x

[Memina]

Hubby tells me not to get involved and let them sort it but it's so hard as I care for my nephew and would never want any harm coming to him. I have a 7 yo too and would never let him travel in a cab by himself.

[shortstuff]

Hubby tells me not to get involved and let them sort it but it's so hard as I care for my nephew and would never want any harm coming to him. I have a 7 yo too and would never let him travel in a cab by himself.

Fully understand where you might find it hard to hold back but remember they chose to have him, you are Auntie not Mum, or Dad. You do need to give yourself some credit for bailing them out for so long. You need to start thinking of you now x

[blue bear]

They know how much you care and are using that to emotionally blackmailing you to do things their way over and above what is reasonable.
Have you tested out their claim there is no other minder or option for care for your nephew?

You need to decide what you are happy to do and lay it on the line like you would any parent, where do you stand insurance wise putting a seven year old in a taxi unaccompanied? (I know he is related to you but what happens if something goes wrong, who gets the blame and her face all over the papers then?)

Whatever you decide you then have to stop bending the rules in an effort to be seen as helpful, sounds more like a personal assistant than auntie doing an enormous favours. How does all this running around dropping him here there and everywhere affect your own and other children in your care.

Not saying you cant do it if you are happy and comfortable it's the best thing for all concerned but from your post its obviously not best for you.

[watgem]

Perhaps you shouls see if there are any nanny or au pair agencies near you and give them the details, suggesting this might suit their needs better, and at least you know somebody checked and qualified would be caring for your nephew, you obviously care for him very much poor little chap. I wonder what their plans are for when you give birth? Unfortunately family often are the very ones that take the michael, sending you a big hug and one for your nephew too xxxx