mushpea
13-03-2013, 02:36 PM
well i spoke to my development officer today who said that regards to the 5yrold telling the younger children what to do when playing she said there are alpha children and followers, the alpha children will lead the play and the followers will do what they say, she said that as long as the children are happy to follow or do as she is telling them then its fine, she asked me if the children were happy and they are and each time I say to the younger ones are you happt do that or go there or do you like that game the answer is yes from the little ones and they are happy to play along, they are 3yrs and 4yrs and quite capable communication wise of saying they dont want to do somthing and the 4yrold is now learning to tell me when he dosent like somthing. she also said that they will learn from the experiance of having an older 'alpha' child playing with them, they will learn to have their say and they will learn they dont have to play her game.
I am not sure about this, it has given me a different perspective on this issue and I do reguarly check they are happy and they say they are, I even asked them today and monday if they still like playing with the children and both littlys have happily said yes.
so now I dont know wether to call a meeting with mum and talk to her about the rudness and cheekiness and also the sneaky way in which they get the children to play with them and prehaps see if things improve and go from there or to still call it a day, i have worked hard to help the older one feel safe and fit in and to help him with his behaviour and I have seen an improvment with him since he's been here and I know there is a lovley child in there so I would really like to keep working with him and his sister but not sure, arrgh why cant life be black and white.
I am not sure about this, it has given me a different perspective on this issue and I do reguarly check they are happy and they say they are, I even asked them today and monday if they still like playing with the children and both littlys have happily said yes.
so now I dont know wether to call a meeting with mum and talk to her about the rudness and cheekiness and also the sneaky way in which they get the children to play with them and prehaps see if things improve and go from there or to still call it a day, i have worked hard to help the older one feel safe and fit in and to help him with his behaviour and I have seen an improvment with him since he's been here and I know there is a lovley child in there so I would really like to keep working with him and his sister but not sure, arrgh why cant life be black and white.