smurfette
19-02-2013, 09:13 AM
Well that was fun!!
Have a 9 year old tto but mum wants it all ways because she is a lecturer in a college so wants me to have him if he is off and she isn't. As far as I know we agreed midterm breaks but she now wants Easter and apparently his school are off for a whole week in June! My girls aren't off and it would interrupt the babies routine of toddler groups etc plus I just had him for the two days midterm and he was a pain in the bum! Dh took one day off and took him and my girls to the national museum and he was fed up after half an hour and the next day I made a picnic and took them to the zoo with one little one .. We still went even though the other little one puked in the car just before we left and we had to wait for him to be collected. He told me he wanted to go to his granny's because he could play his playstation! That is all he does at home and as a result he doesn't know what to do at mine, he is ok during the week as he has homework and something to eat and then he is gone, but 5-8 hours all day all week?!!! I was so cross on Friday because he was so ungrateful and even said he didn't say thank you cos he couldn't be bothered! I thought that might be the way to handle him in hols as he won't do any activities I set out for him, but if he is only going to whinge when out, well the money just isn't worth it.. Ruined the day for my poor girls who were delighted with their trips out. Anyways I text her last night and said I wouldn't be available at Easter as we may be away and I can't manage him, my girls and babies (didnt go into details maybe I should have!) or in June and gave her the number of someone who may be able to help and I got a huge rant back which was quite rude. There is nothing in the contract about those hours and she has five weeks notice. Anyways she threatened me with 'enforcing the contract' (whatever that might mean, I haven't broken anything and we don't have the same legal ties to them as you do, most minders here don't use them and if they do its more for the agreement to be in writing to refer back to) and is pulling him out on Friday (so she isn't giving me four weeks notice and it is her breaking the contract! ) To be honest he was taken on when my friend was co minding with me, and I have struggled on my own to facilitate them still. I am happy to see him go especially after her abuse yesterday (you may remember I was on about him last mid term because he was pushing and pushing to watch 18s videos and talking about his 18s computer games in great details and I was struggling to contain this) Feel sorry for him really, he told me yesterday he doesn't know how to entertain himself cos his mum doesn't go anywhere with him or do anything with him, and this seems to be true , se is caught up in working and doing a phd, and told me in front of him she hated being a parent and she was halfway through raising him thank goodness! Poor kid Dreading her picking up today think I will just send him out to her, she normally comes in and chats. Nice as pie as long as you give her what she wants and a bully if not.
Have a 9 year old tto but mum wants it all ways because she is a lecturer in a college so wants me to have him if he is off and she isn't. As far as I know we agreed midterm breaks but she now wants Easter and apparently his school are off for a whole week in June! My girls aren't off and it would interrupt the babies routine of toddler groups etc plus I just had him for the two days midterm and he was a pain in the bum! Dh took one day off and took him and my girls to the national museum and he was fed up after half an hour and the next day I made a picnic and took them to the zoo with one little one .. We still went even though the other little one puked in the car just before we left and we had to wait for him to be collected. He told me he wanted to go to his granny's because he could play his playstation! That is all he does at home and as a result he doesn't know what to do at mine, he is ok during the week as he has homework and something to eat and then he is gone, but 5-8 hours all day all week?!!! I was so cross on Friday because he was so ungrateful and even said he didn't say thank you cos he couldn't be bothered! I thought that might be the way to handle him in hols as he won't do any activities I set out for him, but if he is only going to whinge when out, well the money just isn't worth it.. Ruined the day for my poor girls who were delighted with their trips out. Anyways I text her last night and said I wouldn't be available at Easter as we may be away and I can't manage him, my girls and babies (didnt go into details maybe I should have!) or in June and gave her the number of someone who may be able to help and I got a huge rant back which was quite rude. There is nothing in the contract about those hours and she has five weeks notice. Anyways she threatened me with 'enforcing the contract' (whatever that might mean, I haven't broken anything and we don't have the same legal ties to them as you do, most minders here don't use them and if they do its more for the agreement to be in writing to refer back to) and is pulling him out on Friday (so she isn't giving me four weeks notice and it is her breaking the contract! ) To be honest he was taken on when my friend was co minding with me, and I have struggled on my own to facilitate them still. I am happy to see him go especially after her abuse yesterday (you may remember I was on about him last mid term because he was pushing and pushing to watch 18s videos and talking about his 18s computer games in great details and I was struggling to contain this) Feel sorry for him really, he told me yesterday he doesn't know how to entertain himself cos his mum doesn't go anywhere with him or do anything with him, and this seems to be true , se is caught up in working and doing a phd, and told me in front of him she hated being a parent and she was halfway through raising him thank goodness! Poor kid Dreading her picking up today think I will just send him out to her, she normally comes in and chats. Nice as pie as long as you give her what she wants and a bully if not.