cbj1609
17-01-2013, 01:44 PM
Hello
Just looking for some advice about what to say to parents of my childmindee. He is 3 next month and ive cared for him since he was 1, so a while. He used to be really, really bad when he first came. He used to run and headbutt doors to the pint I had to video him as evidence I wasnt beating him, he had that any bruises. I have sorted him out and been really pleased with his change.
Basically his behaviour has changed and i think its because of what happens at home. I know he is eating junk food at home, he tells us hes had chinese food, I know he has dominoes pizza beause I discussed this with his mum. He arrives at mine with at 8am eating sweets, often lollies and icecream. (I do remove it from him) I also know he is sleeping in mums bed and though he has his own never in it. I have babysat for them and noticed that he was allowed to just get up and sit on sofa and watch tv as often and when he likes - he came down at 11pm and when I told his parents they were like oh yes he does this all the time. I have also noticed recently he is unable to feed himself, he was capable but for some reason now he is not.
What I need to know is what do I say to the parents, its almost like I have to train them. He is shouting at me, shouting at childmindees. Kicking out, screaming. He is getting really angry and will not talk. He is arriving with a very sad face. Today was good this morning, he did a beautiul picture then literally out of the blue, started crying, shaking, gettting angry, threw himself off the chair and rigid on the floor kicking out.
I dont want to seem rude to them but I think he is really, really tired and not being fed properly. I give him good nutritious food but really struggling at the moment to get him to eat it, but i know if i put a biscuit down in front of him...no problem.
What do I say. I am going to email the mother as this is the easiest way to communicate with them. I am worried about him. I dont know if its something medical or just I am fighting him and then he goes home and gets whatever he likes
Any ideas would be truly appreciated. He was doing really well and I was so impressed with him. Doing his 2 year check, he ticked a lot of boxes but now something has changed. I am hoping if I ask the mum then if something has changed at home she will tell me. I asked her to do this before. Dad is fine but pointless talking too as he is very shy and wont deal with it.
Thank You for listening to me babble on.
Catherine
Just looking for some advice about what to say to parents of my childmindee. He is 3 next month and ive cared for him since he was 1, so a while. He used to be really, really bad when he first came. He used to run and headbutt doors to the pint I had to video him as evidence I wasnt beating him, he had that any bruises. I have sorted him out and been really pleased with his change.
Basically his behaviour has changed and i think its because of what happens at home. I know he is eating junk food at home, he tells us hes had chinese food, I know he has dominoes pizza beause I discussed this with his mum. He arrives at mine with at 8am eating sweets, often lollies and icecream. (I do remove it from him) I also know he is sleeping in mums bed and though he has his own never in it. I have babysat for them and noticed that he was allowed to just get up and sit on sofa and watch tv as often and when he likes - he came down at 11pm and when I told his parents they were like oh yes he does this all the time. I have also noticed recently he is unable to feed himself, he was capable but for some reason now he is not.
What I need to know is what do I say to the parents, its almost like I have to train them. He is shouting at me, shouting at childmindees. Kicking out, screaming. He is getting really angry and will not talk. He is arriving with a very sad face. Today was good this morning, he did a beautiul picture then literally out of the blue, started crying, shaking, gettting angry, threw himself off the chair and rigid on the floor kicking out.
I dont want to seem rude to them but I think he is really, really tired and not being fed properly. I give him good nutritious food but really struggling at the moment to get him to eat it, but i know if i put a biscuit down in front of him...no problem.
What do I say. I am going to email the mother as this is the easiest way to communicate with them. I am worried about him. I dont know if its something medical or just I am fighting him and then he goes home and gets whatever he likes
Any ideas would be truly appreciated. He was doing really well and I was so impressed with him. Doing his 2 year check, he ticked a lot of boxes but now something has changed. I am hoping if I ask the mum then if something has changed at home she will tell me. I asked her to do this before. Dad is fine but pointless talking too as he is very shy and wont deal with it.
Thank You for listening to me babble on.
Catherine