melco
09-10-2012, 06:32 PM
Hi,
I am unsure what to do.
I have a lo who is 14months who comes to me 2.30-6.30pm. The problem I have is that he screams a lot and I mean a lot. He screams to get your attention, he screams when he wants something and screams when you are about to give him dinner, the list goes on!! When he is not screaming he is a happy little boy and can be very sweet.
I have a lo who is 10months who I look after and my own 2 children and also a 9 and 10yr old that I childmind and we are all finding the screaming is getting us down. When he leaves I feel deflated and just want to collapse and also feel that my time with the other children is limited due to this child.
I have not explained the problem to his mum as I have already had issues with her telling me to do certain things and making me feel like I don't know what I am doing. Tonight did not help when I allowed him to have a couple of animal biscuits and she then tells me that she does not allow him to have chocolate. To be honest he has been with me 6 weeks and he normally has fruit but I only had bananas left which he does not like and I knew he was having a lot of vegetable for dinner so I did not think it would be a problem. I know this sounds bad but I did not apologise as she had not informed me and just politely explained that the reason I hand out the forms before a child starts with me is so that she can put what she does not allow him to have so that I can make sure that I do the same. The same thing happened when he first started with me, he was in the lounge with the older children and they had the TV on and he was not watching it but she said when he was picked up that he is not allowed to watch TV, but again she had not told me this so I would not know.
Anyway the question I am asking is where should I take things from here? The way I feel at the moment is I want to give notice. I have only been minding since February and have 7 children on my books and I am really enjoying my job but due to the problems I don't look forward to this lo coming. The 10month old I have has a cousin that was born in July and they want me to childmind him from April which would be during the day and easier for me and my family. I don't want to let the mum down and I have my husband on my back making me think of the money but what about mine and my childrens happiness. We have tried lots of things with him, ignored him, given what he has asked for once the screaming has stopped and praising him for not screaming but if they are not doing the same at home all my hard work is going to waste.
Sorry to go on, but any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks
melco
I am unsure what to do.
I have a lo who is 14months who comes to me 2.30-6.30pm. The problem I have is that he screams a lot and I mean a lot. He screams to get your attention, he screams when he wants something and screams when you are about to give him dinner, the list goes on!! When he is not screaming he is a happy little boy and can be very sweet.
I have a lo who is 10months who I look after and my own 2 children and also a 9 and 10yr old that I childmind and we are all finding the screaming is getting us down. When he leaves I feel deflated and just want to collapse and also feel that my time with the other children is limited due to this child.
I have not explained the problem to his mum as I have already had issues with her telling me to do certain things and making me feel like I don't know what I am doing. Tonight did not help when I allowed him to have a couple of animal biscuits and she then tells me that she does not allow him to have chocolate. To be honest he has been with me 6 weeks and he normally has fruit but I only had bananas left which he does not like and I knew he was having a lot of vegetable for dinner so I did not think it would be a problem. I know this sounds bad but I did not apologise as she had not informed me and just politely explained that the reason I hand out the forms before a child starts with me is so that she can put what she does not allow him to have so that I can make sure that I do the same. The same thing happened when he first started with me, he was in the lounge with the older children and they had the TV on and he was not watching it but she said when he was picked up that he is not allowed to watch TV, but again she had not told me this so I would not know.
Anyway the question I am asking is where should I take things from here? The way I feel at the moment is I want to give notice. I have only been minding since February and have 7 children on my books and I am really enjoying my job but due to the problems I don't look forward to this lo coming. The 10month old I have has a cousin that was born in July and they want me to childmind him from April which would be during the day and easier for me and my family. I don't want to let the mum down and I have my husband on my back making me think of the money but what about mine and my childrens happiness. We have tried lots of things with him, ignored him, given what he has asked for once the screaming has stopped and praising him for not screaming but if they are not doing the same at home all my hard work is going to waste.
Sorry to go on, but any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks
melco