kimnolan87
20-09-2012, 08:46 AM
Hiya,
OK - I have a new family that have recently started with me - there are four school children but I am not looking after the eldest.
The middle child, who is 5 tomorrow, is displaying lots of negative and unwanted behaviour.
I don't want to label him as such, as I don't think he is a bad child in any way, just has a way of always acting up.
Sometimes he doesn't listen, ALWAYS wants his own way, when things don't go his way he throws a tantrum like a baby and he can be quite aggressive towards his younger twin siblings at times too.
I have sat all the children down and discussed house rules, given them ownership of the rules and have also implemented a reward chart for them all.
But still, he keeps on displaying the negative behaviour.
I just don't know what to do with him - mum says he's a handful at home, and I can imagine - on the days where he has a good day with me, as soon as mum comes, he starts playing up again.
He was with another childminder who used to do time out with him, but it got to a point where the mum decided that's all he used to do and wanted him with someone else.
I have worked with children from deprived backgrounds who had lots of challenging behaviours, but I just don't know where to go with this one.
Please help - I want to be able to break this cycle and enjoy my time looking after all the family!!!!!
Thanks,
Kim x
OK - I have a new family that have recently started with me - there are four school children but I am not looking after the eldest.
The middle child, who is 5 tomorrow, is displaying lots of negative and unwanted behaviour.
I don't want to label him as such, as I don't think he is a bad child in any way, just has a way of always acting up.
Sometimes he doesn't listen, ALWAYS wants his own way, when things don't go his way he throws a tantrum like a baby and he can be quite aggressive towards his younger twin siblings at times too.
I have sat all the children down and discussed house rules, given them ownership of the rules and have also implemented a reward chart for them all.
But still, he keeps on displaying the negative behaviour.
I just don't know what to do with him - mum says he's a handful at home, and I can imagine - on the days where he has a good day with me, as soon as mum comes, he starts playing up again.
He was with another childminder who used to do time out with him, but it got to a point where the mum decided that's all he used to do and wanted him with someone else.
I have worked with children from deprived backgrounds who had lots of challenging behaviours, but I just don't know where to go with this one.
Please help - I want to be able to break this cycle and enjoy my time looking after all the family!!!!!
Thanks,
Kim x