Jayse74
31-07-2012, 01:44 PM
The summer holidays have barely kicked in and both my dw and myself feel as if we are doing something wrong. All the younger mindee's are fine, you can take them out on outings and do lots of activities indoor's, outdoor's etc.
We were asked to have two brothers, one of whom is an after schoolie once a week and isnt perfect but does behave and is the youngest of the two. So far 3days and it has been hell! The older lad has the most foul mouth I have ever heard. Im not an angel and I was a pita to my parents when I was young but I was never like this lad. He is at the age where puberty starts kicking in and I expect odd crass/crude words but what we are getting is offensive aswell as innaproriate. He will use words in context and then string them together into really sick comments and sentances. We have tried everything from setting bounderies to pulling the mum aside. Nothing is getting through and the mum does not seem to care, only trying to make us feel bad by letting her down if we refuse to have them.
Today we took them to a mueseum along with a younger mindee and they just played up non-stop, they didnt care about anything that was in the place and just fought each other most of the time which ruined it for the rest of us, they just didnt respond to rules or consequences. One of them even broke something on the way which was not good at all and made us all look terrible, my dw wanted the ground to open up and swallow her. Weve never had mindee's like this and now we are being leaned on as we have had a enougth, we cannot put up with this for the rest of the holidays. Are we wrong by refusing to have them? we do not have a contract with the parent.
Also the child has no statement or disorder so could this be boredom? We have lots of recources but all he wants is computer games but we tend to avoid that stuff. If that is the case then he really should be in some club doing swimming, climbing, kayaking that kind of thing. We have even suggested this to the parent but its a no go?
EDIT: Contract is only for youngest boy for after shool care whilst in term time.
We were asked to have two brothers, one of whom is an after schoolie once a week and isnt perfect but does behave and is the youngest of the two. So far 3days and it has been hell! The older lad has the most foul mouth I have ever heard. Im not an angel and I was a pita to my parents when I was young but I was never like this lad. He is at the age where puberty starts kicking in and I expect odd crass/crude words but what we are getting is offensive aswell as innaproriate. He will use words in context and then string them together into really sick comments and sentances. We have tried everything from setting bounderies to pulling the mum aside. Nothing is getting through and the mum does not seem to care, only trying to make us feel bad by letting her down if we refuse to have them.
Today we took them to a mueseum along with a younger mindee and they just played up non-stop, they didnt care about anything that was in the place and just fought each other most of the time which ruined it for the rest of us, they just didnt respond to rules or consequences. One of them even broke something on the way which was not good at all and made us all look terrible, my dw wanted the ground to open up and swallow her. Weve never had mindee's like this and now we are being leaned on as we have had a enougth, we cannot put up with this for the rest of the holidays. Are we wrong by refusing to have them? we do not have a contract with the parent.
Also the child has no statement or disorder so could this be boredom? We have lots of recources but all he wants is computer games but we tend to avoid that stuff. If that is the case then he really should be in some club doing swimming, climbing, kayaking that kind of thing. We have even suggested this to the parent but its a no go?
EDIT: Contract is only for youngest boy for after shool care whilst in term time.