hedgehog
07-07-2012, 09:21 PM
I have been childminding for 6 months now and look after some really great children, however I am really struggling with one of my children who is so disruptive that I am now beginning to dread the days he comes!
He is 3yrs old and an only child. He struggles to concentrate on anything for more than a minute and hates having to share my attention. He lashes out, pushes,hits etc the other children (especially my own child who is the same age) when he can't get the toy he wants because the others are playing with it and he repeatedly pushes the boundaries and limits all the time. He seems to be very frustrated and everything he does is always very destructive and aggressive. eg if we are colouring he will push the felt tip really hard onto the paper so it snaps the nib or colour so hard it makes a hole in the paper so it rips repeatedly. If we play with cars he will bash the cars together to try and break them (which he has done with several) or smash them into the other children's toys they are playing with to spoil their game. I have spoken to his parents but they say he isn't a problem at home and he is generally very good. When I have had him on his own he is a lot calmer and easier to look after so I am wondering if the issue is with sharing and being with other children? I am so exhausted by the end of the day and his behaviour is affecting my child's behaviour and stressing me out. I am praising good behaviour and ignoring as much bad behaviour as I can. I have a star chart for him but I really feel I am getting nowhere and any advice would be appreciated. I don't want to give up and terminate the contract but I also don't want to get really stressed or for my child to be affected any more. Has anyone had a child with similar behaviour? :(
He is 3yrs old and an only child. He struggles to concentrate on anything for more than a minute and hates having to share my attention. He lashes out, pushes,hits etc the other children (especially my own child who is the same age) when he can't get the toy he wants because the others are playing with it and he repeatedly pushes the boundaries and limits all the time. He seems to be very frustrated and everything he does is always very destructive and aggressive. eg if we are colouring he will push the felt tip really hard onto the paper so it snaps the nib or colour so hard it makes a hole in the paper so it rips repeatedly. If we play with cars he will bash the cars together to try and break them (which he has done with several) or smash them into the other children's toys they are playing with to spoil their game. I have spoken to his parents but they say he isn't a problem at home and he is generally very good. When I have had him on his own he is a lot calmer and easier to look after so I am wondering if the issue is with sharing and being with other children? I am so exhausted by the end of the day and his behaviour is affecting my child's behaviour and stressing me out. I am praising good behaviour and ignoring as much bad behaviour as I can. I have a star chart for him but I really feel I am getting nowhere and any advice would be appreciated. I don't want to give up and terminate the contract but I also don't want to get really stressed or for my child to be affected any more. Has anyone had a child with similar behaviour? :(