sharonmanc
22-06-2012, 02:33 PM
I have an 11month old little boy i care for. Have had him 2 months. And he cry's moans at everything, no tears though. This is avery loud cry/moan.
He has finsihed his food, moans /crys to get out of high chair, he wants something the same will happen, we get back to the house, and he is in the buggy, he will do the same to get out straight away, even though we have just stopped. Does this through nappy changes too ( mum says he does this at hme) If he is shattered and wants to sleep, he will cry/moan for a good 20 minutes until he nods off. This is the worse. as he apparently self settles, but him crying/moaning for 20 minutes is rough. there are no tears though, i spoke to mum about it last night again and she says he has been like this since a baby, and they just pop him in the cot, dummy, bottle etc and let him cry until asleep.
I have never worked this way, but I did it today, he did sleep after 20 minutes, I have tried cuddling, he does not cuddle, as i suppose he is not used to it, again mum says he pushes her away and does not cuddle ( my last little one was not a cuddler) have tried pushchair as i prefer them to be closer so i can keep an eye on them, but he is worse if he can see me, and he gets so tired he is falling over and hurting himself.
I suppose I am just having a moan, as I have never come across a child like this, I know children cry/moan, I have 3 of my own, and countless nieces nephews and other children I have cared for.
I am very uncomfortable with just letting him cry it out, but nothing else i have tried works, and i feel that parents have found the same.
when he is awake, if he cry's moans, for something instantly, then i just talk him through what I am doing, "X i will pick you up in a minute, I am just getting X first" or " x I will get you out of the high chair in one minute, I am just taking your dish to the sink" do you think i am handling this corrrectly, as he is not left in the high chair etc, it is like once he has finsihed eating he throws what he has on the floor and starts the moaning and crying and going on until he is taken out. So i tell him what I am doing very clamly, ignor the behaviour and dont carry on explaining, then do what I have said, then come to him, and reasure him and get him.
It is beginning to get me down, as i have another under one, and i may end up giving notice, which i feel awful for, but in all honesty I have never known a baby like him for this kind of behaviour, especially as his need are being met.
He is sleeping now............
Have adited to add that he does not cry n hand over, pick up, when he is tired he comes to me, if he has fallen over he looks for me, so he knows that I care for him etc, he is a very clever little by too
He has finsihed his food, moans /crys to get out of high chair, he wants something the same will happen, we get back to the house, and he is in the buggy, he will do the same to get out straight away, even though we have just stopped. Does this through nappy changes too ( mum says he does this at hme) If he is shattered and wants to sleep, he will cry/moan for a good 20 minutes until he nods off. This is the worse. as he apparently self settles, but him crying/moaning for 20 minutes is rough. there are no tears though, i spoke to mum about it last night again and she says he has been like this since a baby, and they just pop him in the cot, dummy, bottle etc and let him cry until asleep.
I have never worked this way, but I did it today, he did sleep after 20 minutes, I have tried cuddling, he does not cuddle, as i suppose he is not used to it, again mum says he pushes her away and does not cuddle ( my last little one was not a cuddler) have tried pushchair as i prefer them to be closer so i can keep an eye on them, but he is worse if he can see me, and he gets so tired he is falling over and hurting himself.
I suppose I am just having a moan, as I have never come across a child like this, I know children cry/moan, I have 3 of my own, and countless nieces nephews and other children I have cared for.
I am very uncomfortable with just letting him cry it out, but nothing else i have tried works, and i feel that parents have found the same.
when he is awake, if he cry's moans, for something instantly, then i just talk him through what I am doing, "X i will pick you up in a minute, I am just getting X first" or " x I will get you out of the high chair in one minute, I am just taking your dish to the sink" do you think i am handling this corrrectly, as he is not left in the high chair etc, it is like once he has finsihed eating he throws what he has on the floor and starts the moaning and crying and going on until he is taken out. So i tell him what I am doing very clamly, ignor the behaviour and dont carry on explaining, then do what I have said, then come to him, and reasure him and get him.
It is beginning to get me down, as i have another under one, and i may end up giving notice, which i feel awful for, but in all honesty I have never known a baby like him for this kind of behaviour, especially as his need are being met.
He is sleeping now............
Have adited to add that he does not cry n hand over, pick up, when he is tired he comes to me, if he has fallen over he looks for me, so he knows that I care for him etc, he is a very clever little by too