Childminder in Kent
25-05-2012, 07:58 PM
I took on a new boy 5 weeks ago. He is just 2 years old. Parents suspect that he may be autistic (no speech and very poor social skills). They advised me that they though he might be difficult to settle in, so have started him now (5 weeks ago) even though mum is not going to be working until September. This is so that mum could 'ease him in slowly'.
Well it hasn't been going well. He has more or less screamed, not cried - screamed for the whole time, everytime i have had him. Not just that but he is also violent - hurting other children/me and throwing things.
He is fine with me if i have no other children - its the sharing of me/toys with other children that he cannot cope with. I have my own baby and if he is asleep, the child will read/play/sing with me quite happily - as soon as my baby/other (minded) children are there all hell breaks loose.
Well this week I have decided that I cannot give him the time he needs, in my opinion ( and i've worked with children for almost 20 years) he needs 1:1 care - With lots of opportunities to mix with other children socially.
When I told mum she was upset/disapointed but I feel that its better to say now rather than leave it for another month or 2, leaving them less time to find someone else.
I know I have done the right thing - for me, my children, my minded children and most of all the child himself.
So why do I feel so bad?!
Well it hasn't been going well. He has more or less screamed, not cried - screamed for the whole time, everytime i have had him. Not just that but he is also violent - hurting other children/me and throwing things.
He is fine with me if i have no other children - its the sharing of me/toys with other children that he cannot cope with. I have my own baby and if he is asleep, the child will read/play/sing with me quite happily - as soon as my baby/other (minded) children are there all hell breaks loose.
Well this week I have decided that I cannot give him the time he needs, in my opinion ( and i've worked with children for almost 20 years) he needs 1:1 care - With lots of opportunities to mix with other children socially.
When I told mum she was upset/disapointed but I feel that its better to say now rather than leave it for another month or 2, leaving them less time to find someone else.
I know I have done the right thing - for me, my children, my minded children and most of all the child himself.
So why do I feel so bad?!