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21-05-2012, 06:42 PM
I have namechanged for obvious reason. I really need your help on this ...
I co mind with my husband. I have this 7 yo mindee. Today she was screaming in a very high pitched voice sitting at a dinner table and my OH asked her not to scream. I was in the room next door so I heard everything. He said the mindees name firmly to grab her attention and then just said 'please do not scream'. She stopped. That's the end of the story. I didn't think much about but a few minutes after the pick up I got a call from the mum saying her DD said my OH shouted at her. I said I was there and heard everything and he definitely didn't shout. I even confronted my own children later who were sitting right beside her when it happened and they confirmed exactly what I said. Going back to the conversation I had with the mum she said she had seen my OH bad temper (where she saw it I wonder!). Now this really annoyed me as I know my OH and he has not got a temper.
As a background information I know she mentioned to another childminder that she wasn't happy using me as a man was also a childminder (that is even before she has come to see us about childminding her DD). She is a single mum. She is very argumentative if she doesn't get her own way.
On the phone I mentioned I will have to speak to my OH as this is a serious allegation. To which she replied 'oh don't worry this is just just for your information. I really like you blah blah blah...but I don't trust men ...blah blah'
I think I have decided to give notice as I don't feel I can work with her anymore as I just feel one of those days her DD may decide to exaggerate something else and we will have the police and social services on our backs and no business.
I just wanted to ask you what's the best way to deal with this situation as it can't just stay between me and the mum.
I co mind with my husband. I have this 7 yo mindee. Today she was screaming in a very high pitched voice sitting at a dinner table and my OH asked her not to scream. I was in the room next door so I heard everything. He said the mindees name firmly to grab her attention and then just said 'please do not scream'. She stopped. That's the end of the story. I didn't think much about but a few minutes after the pick up I got a call from the mum saying her DD said my OH shouted at her. I said I was there and heard everything and he definitely didn't shout. I even confronted my own children later who were sitting right beside her when it happened and they confirmed exactly what I said. Going back to the conversation I had with the mum she said she had seen my OH bad temper (where she saw it I wonder!). Now this really annoyed me as I know my OH and he has not got a temper.
As a background information I know she mentioned to another childminder that she wasn't happy using me as a man was also a childminder (that is even before she has come to see us about childminding her DD). She is a single mum. She is very argumentative if she doesn't get her own way.
On the phone I mentioned I will have to speak to my OH as this is a serious allegation. To which she replied 'oh don't worry this is just just for your information. I really like you blah blah blah...but I don't trust men ...blah blah'
I think I have decided to give notice as I don't feel I can work with her anymore as I just feel one of those days her DD may decide to exaggerate something else and we will have the police and social services on our backs and no business.
I just wanted to ask you what's the best way to deal with this situation as it can't just stay between me and the mum.